The talk with MIL went extremely well! She was very open, and was already very understanding - as was suggested by Suzie-Q in the last post's comments, she did sympathize with my situation when planning, and just didn't want to intentionally "leave me out" of anything. She was so receptive, in fact, that she began crying when I was talking about the 5 stages of infertility well before I ever did ;) When I was telling polkadot about the talk, I said there was a certain point when I did "lose it." MIL was telling me that she realized how painful this must be for me, and that it really struck her how painful it also is for DH when earlier this week, he told her that he just couldn't set up the crib. (At first, I didn't know what she meant by "THE crib." I was thinking, Why on earth would he be setting up a crib when we're not even pregnant??) But then she saw my bewildered expression and elaborated, "SIL had asked for his help to set up the crib, and he apologized and said he just couldn't handle it."
And that's when I lost it. Because, this was the first time I was hearing about this. And I know DH didn't tell me about this for a reason. Talk about breaking my heart.
I went on to tell polkadot that I was so impressed that I was able to cry in front of her, and by the end of the talk, I had shed at least 2 tears. She looked at me through her own bloodshot, tear-filled eyes and said, "You shed two tears??"
"Yes! That's huge for me!"
"Well... good for you shedding two tears..." responded my Phlegmatic friend ;)
So, it was great. The shower was not really even mentioned specifically. I did say that I wanted her to know that past or future events that corresponded with extremely difficult hormonally-charged days for me were avoided for this reason. I said it didn't matter if it was a child's birthday or a bachelor party, if it was cycle day 1, I probably would not be in the mood to attend ;) We shared a laugh about that.
And in other news, I am tickled pink to announce that IN MY HOUSE was created my very first baby...
I think it looks just like his father.
And here I thought I was barren ;) I MADE A BABY!!!!!!
OK, off to watch the Giants (who I only "really" watch in the play-offs, I must admit.) Thanks for all your prayers on Friday, they helped calm me down. I was literally making myself sick to my stomach thinking about getting so emotional in front of MIL... so silly of me!